Just starting off my blog... wow, this is going to be difficult!

This blog will be all about the relationship between my Sir and I.  After having our first child, I decided we should try to get back into kink and fetishism, and recently discovered some things about myself that weren't apparent before.

About us:

I am 23, and have just had my first child, age 4 months.  When I first got together with my Sir, he entrusted to me the secret that he likes bondage.  After a few years of me being begrudgingly tied up, we put it to the wayside while I was pregnant.  This was difficult for him, a great deal of tension was put on our relationship because of my disdain for bondage and his love of it.  We have watched bondage porn in the past, but all it does for me is upset me that the Dom/me is so cruel to the sub; it doesn't even cross my mind that the sub is enjoying it!

However, after having our little girl, I happened across an awesome blog, which ignited my interest in kink once again, and this in turn turned me towards another excellent blog - feel free to follow these lovely ladies, after reading their many stories, I often feel involved in their lives.  They are who inspired me to start this blog, and I hope my readers will feel involved in my life too.  I have a 'kink' facebook and twitter (link for the latter is above), so please feel free to add me (if you could just please mention where you found me, and I'll gladly accept!).

After reading the above-mentioned blogs and doing a little more research, I have decided I like (and possibly need?) a slightly more D/s/Taken in Hand relationship.  In this regard, Sir can incorporate his love of bondage and I get the thrill of being Dommed.  Taken in Hand is something we're working on, I think Sir is feeling the pressure of letting me look after baby and tidying the house, while he deals with the finances and the 'Head of Household' stuff.  As I say, we're working on it.  I'd love to be able to look after the baby and the house on my own, and let Sir work and deal with the finances and house repairs and DIY and so on and so forth, but we're still stuck in our old roles and are slowly finding our balance; for example, Sir hasn't been able to deal with the finances in a few months, so I offered to set it all up for him, so that when he has a chance he can look it all over, approve everything, and make any relevant telephone calls.  I haven't been able to deal with baby and the house all on my own, so Sir has been helping me with the house, and, in the mornings, the baby (just so I can shower and pretty myself up for the day!).

We have two dogs and two cats, and will probably have my mother-in-law (and three cats and rabbit) moving in with us in a symbiotic-financial relationship (she helps us with the rent, we put a roof over her head).  This will be an experience - she lived with us once before, in a stressful situation, and all in all it wasn't good.  I'm hoping this time around we'll all be able to understand each other's needs a bit better.  I feel better about it since, when I return to work mid-June, if work aren't willing to offer me sensible hours for looking after the baby (i.e. I work in the mornings, come home for a handover period, Sir goes to work in the afternoon, I possibly work from home while he's at work) then at least my mother-in-law can look after her while we're both at work, and we won't need to pay for childcare.  She is more than happy to do this, and as long as she goes by our parenting rules, then we're fine with that too.

Funny story about my mother-in-law...  She came over to feed the animals one night while we were staying at my mum's.  She decided to tidy and vacuum the house.  Our bedroom was a mess (yes, we are messy in the bedroom but not the rest of the house!) and that morning we had made some nookie.  We'd left the 'rampant rabbit' vibrator on my bedside table and the ball-gag on the floor on top of a pile of clothes.  My mother-in-law decided to tidy our bedroom up... the vibrator was untouched, but the ball-gag had been moved from the top of the clothes and put on the shelf of a drop-leaf table we have in our room.  If she didn't know what we got up to before, she does now!  She must know something though, otherwise, where do the 'dirty' socks come from; where do the slobbery belts and strips of fabric come from; how did we have a baby if we never did 'the dirty'? LOL

So, overall, things are looking to be difficult over the next year, but much better than previous years.  We are happy in our house (even if it isn't in the perfect area or the perfect house), have good jobs, steady income, have a beautiful 4-month-old baby girl who is so smart and clever and engaging and engaged...  I can't wait to see what the rest of the year brings!